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7 Signs of Diabetes You Should Pay Attention To

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Did you know that 37.3% of Americans are diagnosed with diabetes right now? That is, 1 in 10 people in America have diabetes. And, according to some health statistics, approximately 1 in 5 people don’t even know they have it until their health gets permanently damaged by this disease. This is usually the case with type 2 diabetes – diabetes with very mild symptoms that need years to develop. Type 1 diabetes, on the other hand, has intense symptoms that happen rather quickly. 

Type 1 diabetes, as we have said, can be recognized instantly, but, type 2 can be tricky to discover. Thus, today, we will talk about some early signs of diabetes you should pay attention to. Reacting early (going to your doctor) can be a life-saver in this situation! So, if you have some, or all, of these symptoms, schedule an appointment with your doctor.  

What is Diabetes? 

Before we start talking about the signs of diabetes you should pay attention to, let us first explain what diabetes is. Namely, diabetes, or diabetes mellitus, is when the sugar from the food you eat can’t be converted into energy. When we eat sugars, our body converts them into glucose and, using blood vessels, carries them through the body so that blood cells can convert them into energy needed for a healthy life. 

To convert sugars into glucose, our body uses the hormone called insulin. With diabetes, our bodies can’t produce insulin or our cells become utterly immune to it which results in high sugar levels. 

Type 1 diabetes, in the majority of cases, develops early in life. How it develops is not yet known. Some experts believe that type 1 diabetes is genetically predisposed, but, that has not been proven. Type 2 diabetes, however, happens because of poor life choices – unhealthy diet and no exercising. 

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Living with diabetes is possible, you just have to make some lifestyle changes.

Signs of Diabetes 

And now, let us talk about some of the most common signs of diabetes you should pay attention to. Again, if you notice having these symptoms, talk to your doctor – if you catch your disease early, managing it can be quite easy. 

1. Extreme Thirst and Frequent Urination 

Extreme thirst is one of the most common signs of diabetes. People with diabetes also say that no matter how much they drink water throughout the day, they will always feel dehydrated. This extreme thirst typically results in frequent urination. 

But, sometimes, we can have frequent urination without extreme thirst. When your sugar levels are high, they go to our kidneys which then ‘spill’ them into the urine. 

2. Increased Hunger 

Increased hunger, or polyphagia, is also a very early and a very common sign of diabetes. Just as previously said, when we eat, our bodies turn what we eat into glucose and use that glucose to feed our cells. With diabetes, this system doesn’t work and results in persistent hunger. 

There is a common diabetes myth that people who have this condition must have a special diet in order to live. That is true, but only in some cases. Namely, to live with diabetes, you don’t have to cut all those delicious foods from your diet. All you have to do is ensure you have healthy meals throughout the day and avoid only those foods that are too rich in sugars and salts. 

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Constantly feeling hungry may be an early sign of diabetes.

3. Fatigue 

In today’s world, we all feel fatigued. But, feeling fatigued too much and too often is one of the most common signs of diabetes. Why it occurs is still not known. However, doctors believe that we feel fatigued because our blood cells can produce enough energy. 

With fatigue, doing day-to-day tasks may be extremely challenging. But, if you keep your illness under control, you can easily get rid of this symptom and continue living as before. There is no need to be afraid of exerting, walking, or doing some big life events such as moving, for example. Of course, if you need help moving, you can always turn to experts from Four Winds KSA, but, as long as you are following your doctor’s orders, you will be okay to pack those boxes and carry them to your moving truck. 

4. Frequent Infections 

We all get infections from time to time. They are annoying, but an integral part of our lives. Getting them once (or even twice) a year is perfectly normal. But, getting them often is a sign of diabetes – especially type 2 diabetes. Infections you can get can be bacterial, fungal, or yeast. And, you can get them on any part of your body (outside and inside).

5. Blurred Vision

In most cases, high blood sugar levels can affect the blood vessels in our eyes and cause blurred vision. When you treat diabetes properly and on time, this blurriness will go away. However, if you don’t do anything, you may develop a more serious condition (diabetic retinopathy) which can lead to blindness. 

Diabetes, both type 1 and type 2, can often lead to many other serious conditions. Even if early symptoms don’t seem serious, everything can change overnight. That is why it is important to talk about diabetes to your doctor! 

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Don’t wait for your symptoms to develop even further – treat them instantly.

6. Unintended Weight loss 

We all want to lose a couple of pounds. But, if we are losing them without trying, that is, without making any life changes, that may be diabetes. Diabetes causes sugars from our food to go directly to the urine and keeps them away from other organs and cells that need it to function properly and to maintain weight. 

Unintended weight loss is one of the most common signs of type 2 diabetes. Of course, you can experience this condition with other illnesses, but, if you are losing weight and experiencing symptoms such as nausea and vomiting, you most likely have diabetes. 

7. Mood Changes 

One of the last but certainly not least signs of diabetes you should pay attention to is constant mood change. This is because blood sugar is closely connected to our mental health. So, if something is wrong with blood sugar, something will also be wrong with our mental health. Mood changes you can experience with diabetes (especially with type 2) are constant and severe irritability, worry, and anxiety.

It is important to know that having diabetes (either type 1or 2) is not a death sentence! Many people live with this condition normally. But, to reach that level of normality, you must consult your doctor and make some lifestyle changes, just as mentioned many times before. So, if you notice some of these common signs of diabetes, you know what to do. 

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Why It Is Important to Talk About Your Diabetes

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Guest post by Jassica Mendez

Controlling your diabetes takes up a lot of time, and it’s likely that discussing it is the last thing on your mind. You may prefer to manage your diabetes on your own terms, without the assistance of others. On the other hand, if you’ve recently been diagnosed, you might need some time to process everything that comes with this chronic disease. Everyone’s circumstance is unique, and talking about it can be difficult, especially when it concerns your own health. It is also possible that you still don’t understand your own feelings about it. It is, however, necessary for a variety of reasons. If you need motivation or want to find a purpose as to why you should talk about your diabetes, we understand, and we are here to help.

It will help other people understand what you’re going through

Opening up about what they are going through, no matter how minor or major, can be difficult for some people. After all, some of us may have grown accustomed to handling challenging situations independently. Allowing others into our lives and sharing our daily challenges, on the other hand, can help them comprehend our frustrations, moods, and overall way of life. When it comes to discussing your diabetes, this is no exception. Diabetes, whether we like it or not, is an important aspect of our lives and should be discussed with people around us.

Although experts familiar with this challenging illness and the way it affects our lives understand what we’re going through, loved ones may require further assistance. Thus, personal trainers from DubaiPT advise you to teach your loved ones about diabetes, your symptoms, and how they might be able to assist you. Allow them to ask questions, address any worries, and express how much you appreciate their desire to learn more. However, keep in mind that, like you, they may need some time to process this information. 

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It can even be a real eye-opener for you

Even if you don’t believe it at first, talking about your diabetes can help you better understand yourself. The way you speak about a subject like this may mirror your inner views, and expressing them might help you put things in perspective, especially if you’re talking about it with your child. The way you simplify it and explain it can be a real eye-opener to how you actually view the illness yourself.

 Simply saying the words aloud can aid in processing your thoughts. It can help you break free from a cycle of worrying, allowing you to feel less stressed. It may also help you identify and rectify a negative mindset you have about diabetes. Furthermore, by having someone listen and inquire about it, you will learn more about the topic itself since you may need to do some research to respond.

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While talking about your diabetes can help you better understand yourself, be sure to keep note of what you learn.

It will help you find more support

By being open with people about your diabetes, you will be left with even more support. After all, how can someone help you when they don’t know you need help? They may help in various ways, such as helping you with some tasks, so you have less on your plate.

Alternatively, you may be fine on your own but need a simple hug to get through the day.

Open up to people around you, and you may be surprised by how many people can relate to or know someone that struggles with the same thing. Even while those not suffering from the same illness can support you, it may be more beneficial to speak with someone who has diabetes. Connecting with other individuals who have diabetes can help you make positive adjustments and work through daily obstacles like feeling nervous about your blood sugar levels or trying to figure out when to take your injections. You will know you’re not alone and that other people are dealing with the same issues by opening up.

Sharing your experience with diabetes with others may even inspire you to support yourself more. You could, for example, look into meal plans for diabetics that are catered to your very own dietary requirements. Since many healthy options are available, you are sure to find some that work for you. It would be best to be your very own support through any challenge life throws your way.

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Build your own support group to help you get through each day.

It will replace myths with knowledge

There is nothing worse than dealing with something and people around you being misinformed about it. The proper way to rectify this issue is to talk about your diabetes openly and replace myths with knowledge. Most people, especially those close to you, will be thrilled about learning more and debunking harmful myths.

You have the option of debunking these beliefs in a variety of ways. Most people may prefer to research the disease and share what they’ve learned. On the other hand, others may want to include their loved ones when researching. If all else fails, you may bring them to different diabetes education classes so you can both learn something new.

No matter what method you choose, you all will be left with a better understanding of diabetes. This will benefit you and anyone you can share this knowledge with.

It will help raise awareness

 The diabetes community marks Diabetes Awareness Month every November with events, fundraisers, and initiatives to educate the public and raise awareness about the disease. However, even if it isn’t November, you should try your best to help raise awareness. Of course, you may have different levels of awareness depending on where you are in your diabetes journey. This, however, shouldn’t stop you from talking about your diabetes and your personal experience with it.

Since diabetes affects roughly 463 million people worldwide, it is a topic that should be discussed often. You can educate individuals who may not be aware of the symptoms, risk factors, or treatment alternatives. And who knows, if you talk about your diabetes openly, you may even help someone prevent or delay prediabetes and type 2 diabetes. 

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How To Talk To Your Child About Diabetes

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Guest post by Jassica Mendez

If your child has been diagnosed with diabetes at such a tender age, we understand it can be frightening. Even though it can be hard to explain that they have a life-long condition, there are ways you can help them feel more confident and understand the issue better. Having this condition doesn’t mean kids can’t be kids. On the contrary, your kid’s confidence, good health, and understanding start with having an open and positive conversation. For instance, there are numerous sugar-free cookie recipes and delicious treats, so don’t think they’ll miss all the fun. The article below shares some things to keep in mind if you wish to talk to your child about diabetes and make their diagnosis feel manageable.

What to keep in mind if you want to talk to your child about diabetes

All changes we experience throughout our lives can be overwhelming and even shocking. Each change our family faces should be taken under great thought and honest conversation. Parenting a child diagnosed with diabetes isn’t easy, especially if you’re trying to manage other family obligations like preparing for a long-distance move or home renovations. That’s why it’s crucial to have a plan in place to guide you. This way, you’ll make sure you’re all ready for the moving day, and your child will know what to expect along the way, especially when it comes to their medication and nutrition.

Above all, you will have to find a way to explain they will need to follow a particular meal plan, monitor their glucose levels, and take insulin shots. Their condition is here to stay, so you will all need to make changes to your lives be empathetic and patient until it becomes a routine. This is why you need to learn about their condition so you’ll be able to explain it to them. Here’s some advice to help you have an effective conversation.

Remain honest

First and foremost, it’s crucial to always tell the truth to your child. Then, if they start asking questions, be sure you give them answers, even the unpleasant ones. Getting all of your questions answered helps everyone feel more in control and learn more about the condition itself.

Another common situation is that kids feel they’ve done something wrong and got this diagnosis. For that reason, we as parents must make it clear this isn’t the case.

Finally, you need to make sure they know their diabetes isn’t going away and that you will all need to learn how to live your best lives with keeping it manageable. At this point, your child might feel upset and sad. This is where it’s important to welcome these emotions and tell them it’s okay they think this way. Encourage them to talk about it openly and share any doubts or frustrations they might have.

Stay positive

How we handle certain situations reflects on our kids, especially if they’re young. This is why we need to make sure we sent the right message:

Their diabetes is here to stay. You will need to learn the ways to manage it. Luckily, together you can get it under control.

When you discuss your child’s condition, it’s vital to be supportive and make these open conversations a part of your everyday life. Regular talk is what normalizes the situation. You will help your kid understand that it’s possible to keep their condition under control with proper management, mindful care, and live a normal life.

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It’s essential to remain positive when you want to talk to your child about diabetes.

Here are some ways you can encourage your young child with diabetes.

  • Praise them each time they pick out a healthy snack.
  • Praise them when they finish their dinner. 
  • Compliment them each time they take on some self-care responsibilities.

Our kids look to us for guidance, so how we deal with their condition affects how they feel and act. For example, if we overreact and get angry about their high sugar levels, our children can be less honest about their sugar readings in the future.

Be informed

Another vital thing is to stay on top of the latest diabetes care information and pass it on to your child. You can use this opportunity to make this a fun learning experience for both you and your child and not feel pressured to become an expert in the field right away.

Be excited to find out some types of sweets will still be on the menu, that they still can play, exercise, and have fun like their friends, but that insulin is a necessity. 

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Making diabetes less scary and a fun learning process can help minimize the fear your child might feel.

Be supportive

Finally, being diagnosed with diabetes can be confusing and stressful. This is why it’s essential to educate the whole family about the matter and involve everyone in your child’s journey. 

If you have other children who don’t have this diagnosis, it would be good to discuss why keeping a healthy lifestyle is essential to everyone, not just those with diabetes. Try to include each family member in meal and activity plans so your kid with a diagnosis doesn’t feel left out or special in a negative sense.

Having involved family members is a crucial part of managing diabetes throughout childhood.

Age-appropriate conversations about diabetes

Finally, here are some tips on how to talk to your child about diabetes according to their age.

  1. Infants and toddlers don’t understand why they need to have their fingers poked. Making this a daily routine will help, like diaper changes or naps. In addition, it would help perform diabetes care gently and quickly and be soothing and reassuring afterward.
  2. Preschool kids will also rely on their parents for diabetes care. However, you can explain the care-related obligations in simple terms, so they know what’s happening. It could also help to give them some sense of control by, for example, asking them which finger they want to use for the glucose test. 
  3. Kids in school should learn how to take on some of their diabetes care but with parental guidance. It’s vital to remain supportive and not push your child, but allow them to take on new responsibilities gradually. It’s also this age when they might start feeling sensitive about being different from their peers. It would help if you understood these temporary setbacks and avoided being overprotective. You could also emphasize that once they take responsibility for their diabetes care, it will be easier to attend different parties and have sleepovers.
  4. Teenagers are the ones that could make poor decisions about their diabetes care due to peer pressure. This is when you should talk about drugs, sexuality, alcohol, and how this can affect their condition. Just keep in mind there’s a fine line between lecturing and offering support. This is why it would help if you approached your child in a caring manner. 
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When wanting to discuss diabetes with your kid, it’s essential to keep their age in mind.

Final thoughts on how to talk to your child about diabetes

Finally, when you are preparing to talk to your child about diabetes, it could help if you found a support group to help you connect with other parents and kids in the same condition. Talking to your kids about their condition can be difficult at any age. However, keeping the communication honest and open is the key. The more you speak to them about it, the more prepared they’ll be for taking care of their diabetes when you’re apart. 

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Snack Ideas for Kids with Diabetes

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Controlling diabetes is impossible without a good meal plan. Since the main issue of this illness is the inability to transfer fuel into energy, you need to find ways to provide enough fuel to keep your organism going and keep sugar levels as normal as possible. In such cases, portion control is crucial for optimum functioning and preventing hyperglycemia. Ideally, kids with diabetes should have three meals a day, with 2-3 snacks in between. Keeping the meals moderate and adding small snacks every couple of hours will help you get it under control. Having 10 -15 grams of carbohydrates, healthy fats, and proteins can help you achieve that goal. Luckily, there are many snack ideas for kids with diabetes that will make their strict dietary regimen fun and tasty!

The healthiest snacks for diabetes are the simplest ones

The main purpose of any snack is to be able to consume it on the go. In addition, it needs to provide a necessary kick start to your system between main meals and get sugar levels under control. You don’t need to spend hours preparing them in the kitchen or worry about serving them hot and cold. However, you need to make sure the snacks have quality ingredients with a low glycemic index and some protein value. Naturally, they need to be low in sugar and, if possible, have some healthy fats. The best type of snack is a combination of:

  •  Vegetables: lettuce, spinach, eggplant, green beans, broccoli, cauliflower, snow peas, etc.
  • Fruits: cherry, plum, peach, pear, kiwi, orange, grapefruit, apples, and most berries.
  • Lean meats: lamb, veal, pork, poultry without the skin, fish, or most processed meats with less than a gram of fat per ounce.
  • Nuts: peanuts, walnuts, pistachios, almonds, cashews.
  • Yogurts and cheeses: Greek yogurt, Icelandic yogurt, non-salty cheese in mindful portions.
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People with diabetes can consume most of the food as long as they’re being rational with portioning.

How to make healthy snacks fun?

Remember when you were a kid, and your parents made you eat healthy vegetables? It wasn’t much fun, was it? Your children probably share the same opinion. Therefore, you’ll need to get creative in motivating them to eat the right kinds of snacks. Some of the things you can do are:

  1. Dip the fruit bits in dark chocolate – every kid loves chocolate, even if it has low sugar content.
  2. Be creative with the vegetable mix – arranging them in a fun way or making the food colorful might be appealing to your kid.
  3. Make perfect bites – combine different healthy snacks in tiny arrangements.
  4. Ask your kids about their favorite ingredients – mix them up with less preferred eats to achieve a good balance and make it easy on your kid.

Another great way to interest your kid in snacks is to prepare them together! Every child loves projects, and their mind is bursting with creativity and smart ideas. Thus, give your little one a chance to prepare the food independently. All you need to do is observe or equally participate, providing occasional guidance when mixing ingredients. This is an excellent way of helping kids engage with food. In addition, learning how to make simple snacks and meals will teach them independence early.

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There is nothing more important for your child than spending quality moments with the family.

Avoid forcing them to eat food they dislike

Stress is the main trigger for diabetes in kids. Being exposed to traumatic events or changes in the environment, like relocation to another home, can significantly impact your child’s health, triggering or causing diabetes. Thus, you need to help them adapt after the move and give them time to process all the changes. It might be challenging to inspire your child to eat fully healthy food at first, but today there are many tasty diabetes-friendly products that your kids will love.

Some of the favorite snack ideas for kids with diabetes

Yogurt with berries and nuts

One of the quickest and most delicious mixes there is. Simply mix an Icelandic or Greek yogurt with a handful of blueberries, raspberries, strawberries, or any type of berries your kid prefers. Add some chopped nuts, stir it up, and you’ll have the perfect healthy snack that you can also use instead of breakfast or a dessert.

The combination of active probiotic cultures from yogurt and proteins from berries and nuts will be great for your kid’s digestion. Moreover, it will provide enough energy to keep the right glucose levels in the system.

Chia seed pudding

Chia seeds do wonders for the metabolism because they are rich in omega 3 fatty acids, magnesium, and fibers. If used often, they can also serve as a powerful antioxidant. That being said, introducing chia seeds into your kid’s diet will bring many benefits.

Mix half a cup of chia seeds, 1/3 of a cup of cocoa powder, and a pinch of sea salt. Afterward, add one and a half cups of almond milk and stir it well until all the ingredients are blended. Leave it in the fridge for a few hours, or preferably overnight.

Homemade protein bars

Making your energy-rich sweets is very easy! And all you need is some chopped peanuts, half a cup of coconut flour, 1/4 of a low-carb vanilla protein powder, a teaspoon of Stevia, a cup of natural peanut butter, and 1/4 cup of sugar-free syrup. First, merge peanut butter with syrup and heat it for 2 minutes in the microwave, mixing until it evenly blends. After, add the dry ingredients – coconut flour, Stevia, and protein.

If the dough becomes too thick, add more syrup. However, if the mix is too wet, fix it with more coconut flour. When you achieve an optimum blend, press the batter onto the pan. Lastly, sprinkle it with chopped peanuts, and refrigerate for a couple of hours before serving. 

a gluten-free cookie and milk
No child will resist a good cookie! With diabetes-friendly sweets, you just need to be more creative with the ingredients.

Naturally, if you prefer trying out some old-school sugar-free cookie recipes instead, you certainly won’t disappoint your kid. 

Conclusion

These snack ideas for kids with diabetes can help you control the illness and make it easier for your kids. However, even though the dietary regime is consistent for diabetes, not everyone will have the same benefits. To be safe, consider your dietitian’s recommendation and approval of certain ingredients because there is more than one factor to consider when finding out what works best.

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Moving Day with Diabetes

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Guest post by Jassica Mendez

Dealing with a chronic illness such as diabetes can be strenuous. On top of that, significant life changes inevitably cause some degree of stress. So, without careful consideration and planning, your moving day with diabetes could cause your symptoms to flare up. Luckily, there are ways to simplify your life and the big moving day. So, if you want to ensure a smooth move, stay tuned for our tips on moving when chronically ill.

Essential tips for your moving day with diabetes

Changing houses puts a massive strain on people and can intervene with their diabetes management. This especially holds today, as many people have to move due to the pandemic and shutdowns.

Luckily, people can relocate successfully with diabetes. Above all, the change can be a pleasant surprise too. So, if you are moving to your larger dream home, there are things you’ll need to take care of to ensure a smooth moving day.

For instance, you should have an emergency medical kit by you at all times carefully plan when and what you will eat on a moving day. People who have diabetes must create a meal plan for events like this. Even though food doesn’t sound like something that should be on top of someone’s list on a moving day, some medication requires taking it before or after a meal.

Therefore, to avoid feeling unwell during a day that is bound to be tiresome, here are the tips to follow when moving with diabetes.

Make a plan ahead and stick to it

Planning is the number one piece of advice for everyone moving homes, especially those living with chronic illnesses. For example, if your diabetes makes you feel unwell after an active and tiresome day, you should ensure you have enough time for all the await tasks. With that said, you should ensure you undertake the tasks reasonably and in small chunks of time instead of cramming everything in a single weekend.

The same goes for the actual moving day: many chronic illnesses organize their lives around their medical problem. Therefore, you should listen to your body, be aware of your limits, and don’t let other people’s methods and expectations get in the way.

Make all the necessary arrangements

The physical and mental effort required to move home shouldn’t be underestimated. In terms of the physical effort, you should be aware of the heavy lifting involved. So, if you are dealing with an illness that causes discomfort, you should consider hiring a full-service moving company that can do these things instead of you.

This way, you will minimize the labor you need to do. Also, you will ensure having peace of mind and simplify your move.

Moving supplies are crucial

If you’ve been dealing with diabetes for some years now, you must have a lot of diabetes-related items accumulated. So, make sure you pack a separate box with your supplementary medicine and diabetic equipment.

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A box with a different colored duct tape designated for your illness-related supplies will make the moving day with diabetes easier.

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Get organized and line up your care

The general rush of moving can easily cause you to forget to get your refills and check expiration dates. So, when the moving time comes, it’s vital to write things down to control your diabetes better. Keeping your to-do lists, schedules, and those kinds of things in a binder you always keep near will be lifesaving.

An organized container full of medicine for the moving day with diabetes.
All major changes can lead to forgetting the usual stuff, such as refilling your medicine.

Additionally, having a relocation-related binder with all the dates, tasks, and bills will help keep up with everything.

Another thing you shouldn’t forget is to change your healthcare provider once you move. Or even make the arrangements beforehand. For example, if you are moving to another state, you might need another insurance plan, pharmacy, and support services. So make sure you include what you will need before your move to make it easier for yourself once you are there.

Don’t hesitate to ask friends and family for help

Preparing for your moving day with diabetes is the perfect time to ask your family and friends for help. They can help you clean the place, clear out your closet, or pack the boxes. In addition, you can all use this time to say your goodbyes if you are moving somewhere further away.

Unfortunately, not everyone has friends or family to turn to. So it’s good to be aware that professionals can assist you with physical tasks. Also, your local council or community may be able to provide some support.

Have an emergency kit

Doctors recommend always keeping your meds nearby, as well as some emergency kit. Even though you might not take packing and moving boxes as an exercise, it’s simply not a thing your body is used to doing. Therefore, those activities can easily lead to your blood sugar plummeting.

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It never hurts having a diet coke on hand when moving houses.

Simplify elsewhere to manage stress

Apart from all the logistics, the most challenging part when managing a relocation is stress. So, since you have some unavoidable projects on your plate, you can try and simplify the rest of your life. Logically, it all starts with doing things beforehand and being organized.

By staying organized and arranging everything in advance, you can pay attention to some of the following:

  • pare down your social engagements;
  • avoid unnecessary school involvements;
  • put your finances on prepay;
  • get enough sleep;
  • give yourself some time to relax and say goodbye to your previous home;
  • keep up with your usual routine as much as possible. 

Final words

No doubt, dealing with a chronic illness can make your day-to-day tasks a bit more challenging. Hopefully, our tips for your moving day with diabetes will lead to fewer flares and help you stay on top of your health game. So, make sure you refer to our article to focus your energies in the right places.

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Common Diabetes Myths You Should Stop Believing

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Guest post by Jassica Mendez

Diabetes is, unfortunately, a pretty common disease. As a result, there is a lot of available information about it. However, there are also many myths circling diabetes. That’s why distinguishing myths from facts is crucial for both diabetes patients and those around them. People with diabetes need to identify the facts in order to properly manage the condition. On the other hand, the people around them should be aware of these myths to provide adequate assistance if ever needed. Since so much information about diabetes is available, sometimes it’s hard to differentiate fact from fiction. So, let’s talk about the most common diabetes myths you should stop believing.

#1 Diabetes Is Contagious

This is probably the most common diabetes myth out there. However, this is far from the truth. Diabetes is a non-contagious disease! It can’t be transmitted through blood, touching, or sneezing. So, if you know someone who has diabetes, they can’t infect you. The only way diabetes can be transmitted is through genetics. For example, parents can pass this condition to their children. However, if your parents have diabetes, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll have it too.

#2 People With Diabetes Can’t Eat Any Sweets

Another one of the common diabetes myths circling is that people who have diabetes can’t eat any sweets. While sweets in large quantities can be harmful, it’s not true that those with diabetes can’t eat them at all. After all, too many sweets isn’t good for anyone. For example, it can be hard for those with type 2 diabetes to control blood sugar levels and even their weight. However, that doesn’t mean they have to fully stay off sweets. With a balanced intake, everything can be properly controlled. So, make sure to always have a healthier alternative to avoid going overboard.

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No, eating too much sugar is not the reason someone has diabetes, and yes – people with diabetes can eat sweets.

#3 People With Diabetes Need A Special Diet

Having diabetes doesn’t mean you have to cut out foods from your diet. In fact, people with diabetes should have the same type of diet as everyone else – a healthy and balanced one. Making healthy choices like this will help improve your metabolism and, thus, keep your condition under control. That’s why you need to choose metabolism-boosting foods like fruit and vegetables but also fish, eggs, low-fat dairy, beans, pulses, and lean meat. Eating these foods will ensure you get enough calcium and iron throughout the diet.

Additionally, avoid having sugar, fat, and salt-rich foods every day. Instead, make healthier substitutions. Avoid sugary drinks since the sugar they contain is absorbed more quickly by the body. Furthermore, when cooking, use unsaturated fats instead of saturated ones. As you can see, not being able to eat regular foods is just another one of the common diabetes myths.

#4 Diabetes Is Caused By Eating Too Much Sugar

There are two types of diabetes – 1 and 2, and neither one of them is caused by eating too much sugar. Type 1 diabetes results from destroyed cells in the pancreas that produce insulin. Therefore, it can’t be a result of a poor diet or lifestyle choices.

Furthermore, even though type 2 diabetes is common among obese people, you can’t say that it’s caused by eating too much sugar. Yes, a diet rich in sugar is often a high-calorie diet, which can lead to obesity. However, obesity isn’t the only factor that causes diabetes, although it can increase its chances.

#5 Type 2 Diabetes Is The ‘Mild One’

This is one of the most commonly circulated diabetes misconceptions, yet it is obviously false. The fact is that there is no such thing as a mild form of diabetes, even if it doesn’t require medication to control it. The truth is, if type 2 diabetes is not adequately managed, it can lead to significant (even life-threatening) consequences such as blindness and amputation, as well as a greater risk of heart attack and stroke. Although good diabetes management can lower the likelihood of complications, this does not negate the fact that diabetes is a serious condition.

Person measuring their blood sugar.
There is no such thing as mild diabetes.

#6 People With Diabetes Should Avoid Exercising 

This is one of the diabetes myths that several well-known athletes have debunked. People with diabetes can and should exercise in order to ensure a healthy lifestyle.

Many people also think that only overweight and obese people with diabetes can benefit from exercising. However, that’s false as well. Regardless of your fat mass, any physical activity is beneficial to a person with diabetes. Exercise, such as walking, aids insulin’s ability to fulfill its function more effectively. As a result, physical activity is crucial for optimizing blood sugar regulation.

Fortunately, there are many great exercises for people with diabetes, and with the help of a personal trainer, they can create an appropriate workout program that will help them lead a more healthy lifestyle and control their condition.

#7 People With Diabetes Can’t Drink Alcohol

It is still acceptable to consume alcohol if you have diabetes, but you should limit yourself to no more than 14 units per week. Just make sure you have a few alcohol-free days during the week if you do drink.

If you’re attempting to lose weight, keep in mind that alcohol can increase your calorie intake while boosting your hunger and decreasing your inhibitions, making it more challenging to stick to a healthy diet.

If you use certain diabetic treatments (insulin or sulfonylureas), you’re more likely to get a hypo if you consume alcohol. This impact can last up to 24 hours after you’ve had alcohol, so make sure you’re prepared and that those around you are aware of it.

#8 All Overweight People Get Diabetes

Although excess weight can increase the chances of getting diabetes, it’s false to assume that all overweight or obese people have it. This condition isn’t related to weight mass, at least not only to this. Actually, about 20% of people with type 2 diabetes are not overweight. And this is not a low percentage. Therefore, this is just another common diabetes myth that needs to be debunked.

Weight can affect blood sugar, but it's not the leading cause of diabetes.
Woman measuring her body mass.

#9 Certain Herbs Can Cure Diabetes

No, hibiscus leaves, cinnamon, turmeric, or any other herb cannot help you cure diabetes. In reality, there is no such thing as a spice or herb that can magically heal diabetes. Although certain herbs and foods can help people with type 2 diabetes improve their insulin sensitivity or resistance, they can’t eliminate the illness. Diabetes is not curable; it’s a life-long disease that you can keep under control with a healthy diet and/or medication. Therefore, this goes on the list of the most common diabetes myths you should stop believing!

Conclusion

Unfortunately, you probably heard about these common diabetes myths. And maybe you believed some of them are true. It’s time to change those beliefs and educate yourself about this condition. As you can see, people with diabetes can lead a normal healthy life with the help of a proper diet and/or medication. They don’t have to avoid eating certain foods and sweets; they just have to find balance. Fortunately, that’s not a hard thing to do. So, now that you got all the facts straight, it’s time to share them with others!

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How to Encourage Your Kids to Eat Healthy

Healthy food displayed on a table

Guest post by Jassica Mendez

One of the biggest challenges for parents is making sure their kids have a healthy diet. And it’s becoming increasingly difficult with all the junk food advertising bombarding us. Not to mention the hectic lifestyle many parents have nowadays that can affect kids’ diets. Lack of time and stress make it easier to order takeout than to plan a meal. However, all is not lost. There are ways to encourage your kids to eat healthy that you might not know. Therefore, we dedicated this article to eating healthy and making kids embrace healthy foods. Continue reading to see how easy it can be to improve your children’s nutrition with a few simple changes.

What is a healthy diet?

A healthy diet means that your children will benefit from all the nutrients they need for growth. It will aid in their development, keep them healthy, and improve the quality of their sleep. And the sooner you can incorporate healthy foods into your children’s diet, the sooner you will be able to see the results. Your children will develop a healthy relationship with food and can even begin to appreciate and prefer it, especially if the food is prepared at home and shared with the entire family during meals.

But what exactly should a healthy diet contain?

Here is a list of types of food that you should incorporate into your child’s diet:

  • Fruits and vegetables – the aim is to have five portions a day.
  • Dairy or dairy substitutes – they should consume them every day.
  • Meat or fish – you can also include it in the daily menu.
  • Legumes – beans or lentils, for example, can also be included in the daily menu.
  • Rice, pasta, or potatoes – you should create the main meals based on these ingredients.
Person showing some vegetables.
It is up to you to choose the best healthy foods for your children, especially if they have dietary allergies or intolerance.

How to incorporate good foods into your child’s diet?

1.   Talk Openly With Your Kids About Healthy Eating

The easiest way to encourage your kids to eat healthy is to make them interested in healthy food. The first step would be to talk to them openly about healthy eating. Explain to them why some foods are good and why others are not. Also, be patient, let them ask all the questions, and answer sincerely. You will notice that if you’re honest and upfront, they’ll start initiating conversations. And when they do, the path is open. They’ll soon begin to question if one food or another is good for them and if they should eat it.

2.   Get Your Kids Involved In Preparing Meals

When your kids get involved in family tasks, they feel important and appreciated. One of those tasks can be preparing a meal for the whole family, or preparing their plate as they wish. Just give them the ingredients and let them choose how they will arrange them on the plate. Also, you can prepare a yummy and healthy dessert together. You can make some sugar-free cookies, for example, that the entire family will enjoy. Talk to your kids about the ingredients and why you’re using them while you’re cooking. In addition, find age-appropriate tasks that they can do. Measuring the ingredients, mixing them, or shaping the cookies, are good examples. These are also great ways to teach kids how they can play with food in a good way.

Mother encouraging her child to eat healthier by preparing a healthy dessert together.
Encourage your kids to eat healthy by getting them involved in the preparation of different meals.

3. Introduce New Foods Gradually

If you wish to change your children’s eating habits, you won’t be able to do it overnight. One of the first rules for encouraging your kids to eat healthy is to use moderation. Don’t force new foods on your kids constantly, and don’t expect them to embrace them immediately. Instead, try to add one new ingredient once a week, for instance, by adding it to something they like. It will be easier for children to accept it if you put it alongside something they already love eating. If your kids like pasta, you can make them some healthy pasta primavera. Add some of the ingredients they already like, but also add one new one. After they eat, point out that they have eaten that ingredient and ask for their opinion of it. If they like it, you can add a new one the next time you prepare it.

4.   Stock Up On Healthy Foods

One of the reasons kids tend to have bad eating habits is diversity. Don’t get us wrong; food variety is good, but not when it comes to picking bad foods over healthy ones. So, when it comes to making a decision, make sure your children have a choice between two good products. Cut down on junk food and stock up on healthy foods. Have fruit available all the time and plenty of healthy snacks. This will make it easier for you to control your children’s diet, even in non-typical situations like a move. Because relocations can be a bit frustrating, your eating habits can suffer during this process. However, if you plan ahead, you can find the best solution for the moving day meals. And if you only have healthy goods on hand, you will ensure that your family will stay healthy. So take your time and try to plan each meal before, during, and after the relocation. It might be a bit time-consuming, but as we all know, health comes first.

Jars containing various combinations of nutritious foods.
If you are relocating to a new home, you can prepare breakfast for the moving day in advance.

5.   Lead By Example

Kids will always look up to their parents. And if they see a food habit repeated, they will adopt it. So to encourage your kids to eat healthy, be careful what message your eating habits are sending. If kids constantly see you eating chocolate or chips, don’t expect them to accept eating their vegetables. But if they see you eating fruits and vegetables all the time, they will want to do the same. Also, teach your children to eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full. You can do this by serving smaller portions on their plates and not forcing them to eat all the food if they don’t want to. Never encourage overeating and try to set a good example once more.

6.   Highlight The Importance Of Breakfast

Kids that have a healthy breakfast are usually in a better mood, have improved memory, and have lots of energy. Therefore, educate your kids about the importance of a healthy breakfast by making it fun. Offer them healthy food accompanied by a low-sugar treat. For example, you can make some hard-boiled eggs and pair them with their favorite cereal and an apple. Or, you can make breakfast burritos with scrambled eggs and cheese and add leftover oatmeal muffins as a snack. They will be more open to accepting healthy food if there is a treat waiting at the end.

In Conclusion

Knowing how to encourage your kids to eat healthy may seem more complicated than it is. You just need to be patient and, from time to time, accept small defeats. Instead of initiating stressful food battles, you need to realize that what your kids eat over time is more important than having a snack once in a while. After all, eating some popcorn during a movie or enjoying some chocolate now and then are everyone’s small pleasures in life. So don’t be too hard on yourself or your kids, as long as you manage to balance these minor escapades with a healthy diet.

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Tips to Help Your Child Adjust When Moving to a New School

Girls walking to school.

by Jassica Mendez

Major life changes often require a period of adjusting to new circumstances. This is true for adults, but even more so for kids. As adults, we know why we make certain life-changing decisions. That makes us motivated and enthusiastic about this new chapter in our lives. On the other hand, children are rarely active participants in the decision-making process. For that reason, transitioning to another school is often a challenging and difficult period. As we all know, school is an important aspect of every child’s life. It’s the place where they learn and play, make new friends, and fall in love for the first time. Although the change is for the better, your child will certainly need some extra love and support during this time. With that in mind, here are some valuable tips to help your child adjust when moving to a new school.

Talk openly with your kid about changing schools

Children often don’t understand why the change is necessary or important. Instead, they find comfort in routine and familiarity. That’s why it’s important to discuss matters openly in advance.

Talk to your child about the reasons for moving, what they can expect at their new school, or even home and town. This will give them precious time to come to terms with the change and start adjusting. Of course, be ready for their reaction, whether positive or negative, as well as for a ton of questions.

Include your child actively in the process

What causes a lot of stress and anxiety when moving to a new school is the fear of losing control. Children, in general, don’t have much control over their environment or get to make a lot of ‘important’ decisions.

To help them gain some control back, let them make as many decisions as they can and participate actively during the change. If possible, let your child choose between two schools in the same neighborhood. Or, if that is not possible, let them choose their new school supplies and outfits. In this way, kids will feel involved and valued. Knowing that their voice is heard will help them build confidence and self-esteem.

school supplies
Choosing their own school supplies and making other meaningful decisions will help your child adapt better

Cherish the old but be enthusiastic about the new

Every child matters, and their opinions and feelings have value and importance. The same goes for their memories and affection for the old school. Help them stay in touch with their old friends and teachers and cherish their previous experiences.

However, it’s crucial to have a positive attitude toward the new school and focus on creating new experiences there. Children are experts in picking up clues from our words and behavior. If you’re happy and enthusiastic about the change, they’ll likely follow suit.

Visit the school if possible

Another excellent way to help your child adjust when moving to a new school is to visit it beforehand. Go together through the school building and grounds and focus on everything great about it.

If possible, visit during the school session so your kid can meet the principal, their new teacher, and maybe even their new schoolmates. That way, your child won’t feel lost on their first day there. Instead, it will be easier for them to find their way around, and they’ll know what to expect.

Help your child make friends

For most kids, the scariest thing about the new school is starting all over with making friends. Depending on your kid’s age, there are ways you can help them to connect with their peers faster. Of course, the last thing you want to do is try to get dates for your teenager!

However, when it comes to younger kids, organizing a playdate is an excellent idea. You can also encourage your child to choose an extracurricular activity they love. It will enable them to connect to other kids over shared interests. Additionally, if you’re moving to a new home, once you settle, you can throw a housewarming party for your child’s school friends!

Three kids playing in front of a house
Making friends and exploring interests is crucial when moving to a new school

Establish the new routine

Changing routines can be especially stressful for a child. That’s why you should work on establishing a new one as soon as possible. Depending on the circumstances, try to incorporate as many elements of the old one as possible. For example, maintaining a healthy lifestyle while getting up a bit earlier to catch the school bus is an excellent idea.

Be understanding and supportive

Naturally, your child will need a lot of your love and support during this period. Lend them an ear whenever they need it and acknowledge their feelings. Knowing that they have you at their side at all times will be encouraging.

This is especially important if moving to a new school isn’t the only significant change. For example, if you’ve relocated to a new home in a new city, your child will likely need more time to settle in. Moving with kids is already stressful in itself. However, if you discuss everything openly with your kids, it can turn into a well-organized and easy process. Let them arrange their belongings and decorate their room, and soon they’ll also enjoy their new home.

A family cooking together.
Quality time at home will help children feel happy and safe in their new home

Plan some quality time at home

Of course, nothing can compare with precious family time. With a new school and challenges there, your kid will appreciate the safety net the home provides. Instead of focusing strictly on school matters, plan some time to indulge in activities you all enjoy as a family. Whether it’s a movie night or baking everyone’s favorite cookies together, your child will love it. It will provide a perfect opportunity to relax and recharge batteries. In this way, you’ll connect old routines and traditions with the new environment.

Give your child enough time to settle at their new school

Last but not least, be realistic with your expectations. Each child is different and is likely to have different attitudes and challenges. Be patient and let your child find their own feet at their own pace. Although you can’t adapt to their new school for them, you can help them along the way. Follow these tips to help your child adjust when moving to a new school, and soon it will feel as welcoming and comfortable as the old one.

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5 Simple Sugar-Free Cookie Recipes

try out these delicious and healthy sugar-free cookie recipes

by Jassica Mendez

If you’re looking for some healthy yet delicious cookie recipes, you’ve come to the right place! Cookies are an all-time favorite food for many people. After all, we all need a bit of extra energy or a comforting snack from time to time. These tasty treats come in a lot of flavors and variations. Not to mention that making them doesn’t require a lot of time and effort. But what about health and fitness? Classic cookie recipes often contain a lot of calories and ingredients that are not beneficial to your overall health. And the first such ingredient that comes to mind is sugar. Luckily, they can be as tasty without it. Here are some excellent sugar-free cookie recipes!

Is white sugar really bad for health?

A short and simple answer is yes. While it adds that sweet, delicious taste we all love, more and more studies show that it is very detrimental to our health. Opinions range widely – from calling it the ‘white poison’ to thinking a moderate use is okay. However, its consumption is certainly linked to many health conditions. Apart from negatively affecting our immune system, it is also connected to obesity, diabetes, and heart diseases.

Luckily, cookies can be as delicious without sugar. So, without further ado, here are five delightful sugar-free cookie recipes!

sugar-free cookies are both healthy and tasty
Luckily, there are many alternative sweeteners you can use instead of sugar.

Pistachio Shortbread

If you’re looking to renew your vow to be healthy, this lovely dessert is a great choice. These keto, low-carb cookies are perfect when you’re craving something sweet and healthy!

  • Ingredients:
  • 3/4 cup almond flour
  • 1/4 cup melted butter
  • 1/4 cup and 3tbsp. oat fiber
  • 5 tbsp. granulated sweetener
  • 5 tbsp. chopped roasted salted pistachios
  • 1/4 tsp. gum thickener
  • 1/2 tsp. baking powder
  • 1 large egg
  • 1tsp. vanilla extract

Instructions:

First, in a small bowl, sift all the dry ingredients together. Then, mix the melted butter, half of the dry ingredients, and vanilla in a large bowl with an electric mixer. Mix in the egg, then the other half of the dry ingredients, and fold in pistachios. Roll the dough into a 5″ long and 2″ wide tube.

The dough needs to spend about 30 minutes in the freezer, so roll it up into the parchment paper and leave it there. Once it’s out, put it on a cutting board and cut it into 1/3″ rounds. Bake them in the preheated oven for about 10 minutes. Leave them to cool a bit (for at least 20 minutes), and they’re ready for tasting!

Sugar-free Chocolate Chip Cookies

Is there anyone who doesn’t enjoy a bite of chocolate now and then? If that’s the case with you, this is one of the best sugar-free cookie recipes for you.

  • Ingredients:
  • 4 tbsp. butter
  • 3 tbsp. grounded flaxmeal
  • 1 1/2 cup almond flour
  • 1/2 cup powdered sweetener
  • 3 tbsp. water
  • 1/2 cup sugar-free chocolate chips
  • 1/2 tbsp. baking soda
  • a pinch of salt

Instructions:

Preheat your oven and line a baking tray with baking paper. If you’re using granulated sweetener, mix it in a blender until it’s powdered. Then, combine butter and sweetener in a large bowl. Add other ingredients – flour, flax, water, and baking soda. Stir them together until you get even dough. Lastly, fold in chocolate chips, so they’re evenly distributed throughout.

Form the dough into cookies and place them into the baking tray. Bake them in the preheated oven (325F) for about 15-20 minutes, depending on how you like them. Leave them to cool for about 10 minutes, and Voila! Your delicious chocolate chip cookies are ready!

chocolate chip cookies are a delicious classic
Chocolate chip cookies are one of the best sugar-free cookie recipes -they’re both delicious and healthy

Keto Breakfast Cookies

If you need some fresh breakfast ideas, this keto sugar-free cookie recipe is an ideal solution.

  • Ingredients:
  • 2 tbsp. coconut flour
  • 1 1/2 cup almond flour
  • 2/3 cup granulated sweetener
  • 1/2 cup melted butter
  • 1/2 cup sliced almonds
  • 2 large eggs
  • 1/2 cup shelled hemp seeds
  • 1tsp. vanilla
  • 1/2 tsp. kosher salt
  • 1 tsp. baking powder

Instructions:

Flatten them with your fingers and place them into the baking tray. After that, bake them in the oven until the bottom turns golden brown (for about 13 minutes). Finally, let them cool down completely and enjoy your delicious breakfast!

Almond Crescent Cookies

If you’re looking for an all-around delicious and healthy cookie recipe, you should try almond crescent cookies. Not only are they sugar-free and delicious, but they also contain one of the high-fiber foods – almonds! High-fiber foods such as nuts, berries, and apples will work wonders for your digestive tract. Plus, they can reduce the risk of obesity, heart disease, and diabetes. So, if you want to eat more fiber, you can start with making these cookies!

berries and nuts are very healthy
You can use fiber-high foods in many recipes – including cookies!

Caption: You can use fiber-high foods in many recipes – including cookies!

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  • Ingredients:
  • 3 3/4 almond flour
  • 1/2 coconut flour
  • 1 cup softened butter
  • 1 1/4 cup granulated sweetener
  • 1/4 tsp salt
  • 1 1/2 tsp almond extract
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • powdered sweetener for coating
  • sliced almonds for coating (about one cup)

Instructions:

Beat butter, salt, and sweetener in a bowl until it all blends nicely. Then add extracts and beat them well. After that, add all the other ingredients and blend them all thoroughly. Form the logs about 3″ long and roll them in the sliced almonds. Shape the logs into crescents and bake them for about 10-15 minutes in a preheated oven (350F). When they cool down, sprinkle them with powdered sweetener and enjoy these tasty high-fiber cookies!

Oatmeal Sugar-Free Cookies

If you enjoy oatmeal breakfast, these cookies are a perfect variation for you. Apart from the fact they’re delicious, they’re also diabetes-friendly and easy to make.

  • Ingredients:
  • 4 oz unsalted softened butter
  • 1 cup almond flour
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1/3 cup sweetener
  • 2 tbsp. oat fiber
  • 2 tsp. beef gelatin
  • 1 large egg
  • 1 1/2 cup sliced almonds
  • 3/4 tsp. cinnamon
  • 1/4 tsp. salt
  • 1/4 tsp. baking soda

Instructions:

Firstly, cream the butter, sweetener, and vanilla extract. Then, add all the other ingredients and beat them well together. Add an egg into it and combine it all well. After that, fold in sliced almonds and shape the dough into cookies. Bake them in the preheated oven for 10-15 minutes. Finally, let them cool completely, and they’re ready for tasting!

Combine healthy and tasty and try out these wonderful cookie recipes.

I hope you’ll enjoy these sugar-free cookie recipes. Not only are they delicious and indulgent, but also healthy and diabetes-friendly. Since they’re all sugar-free and low on carbs, they’re a great choice whether you want to improve your diet or enjoy the taste. These lovely recipes will deliver all the taste while at the same time leaving your health intact!

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Dear Black Boys, Your Life Has Value

In 2013 my husband and I sat down and wrote a letter to our unborn son. It was fueled by the frustration and racial inequalities in our educational institutions, justice system, and media representation that reached a fever pitch after the death of Trayvon Martin. Here we are seven years later mourning the deaths of Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd. Things seem to be getting worse.

Our son is now three years old and I am more fearful, angry, and disgusted by the lack of empathy, compassion, and courage from our government and local leaders. As an author, I wanted to share these words in hopes that they will one day become untrue and out of touch with America’s reality. Until then, please let our black boys know that their lives have value and that they are a child of God.

A Letter To My Unborn Son
by Dr. Anthony and Belinda Mays

To my future son,
Your life has value.

Despite what America feels, says, or does
You will always have your mother’s love.

Society will try and throw you out,
By lowering expectations and instilling doubt.
But just know that you are wonderfully made,
created by the same God as they.

They will fight against me terminating your entry into this hell,
But once you are here,
They place you on a fast track to jail
Or early grave.

You’ll be expected to fail,
Surprise people when you speak well,
Because the image of you has been defined and exploited,
By hypersensitive media and hip hop’s distorted
Views of what it means to be black.

Saggy pants and hat twisted back,
Ruthless thugs who hate women and love drugs,
Always up to no good shoot ‘em up HIV having thugs.

Uneducated lawless trash.

These are the lies they want you to believe,
And they’ve created systems to insure you see,
That your life is of very little value.

A dead dog warrants more jail time than your lifeless body,
They fear you so they kill you
Physically, Spiritually, Financially.

So, I will do my best to prepare you to fight.

I want you to value education,
So that you’ll recognize the injustices you’ll be facing.

Ignorance is still bliss,
And I want you my son to be pissed
When you’re disrespected, threatened, or dismissed.

I want you to be respectful and always aware,
That you can help redefine the images of black males that’s out there.

My son as you travel in this life there will be challenges at every turn.
Be prideful and always keep your crown held high as others wonder, stare and pass vile judgment.

As difficulties arise, it is important to stay physically agile, mentally nimble, and spiritually fit.

I ask myself will the world be any different upon your arrival.
More learned?
More loving?

Keep your eyes focused forward, mind sharp and avoid the cold box that awaits your first mistake.

Despite the statistics, tea-leaves, or fortunes told, your actions and wise
choices will dictate your faith.

A criminal among other things is what they will deem you. Your hue will be their fantasy, their fear, your curse and strength.

Be reflective and diligent as you grow to know society’s worst. Dispel all the worlds’ myths.

Your destiny will demand the discernment of our maker, courage of a lion, power of an elephant, and collective wisdom of our forefathers.

For you will be mistreated, abused, forgotten, disregarded, misused even by your own brother.

Within the throws of it all don’t fall to a common pathology but continue to love and fight.
Meeting every challenge that arises with spiritual vigor, intellectual prowess and physical might.

Labor intentionally and know that there are no weaknesses in your DNA, no shortage of chromosomes, no less.

Created in excellence, an imitation of God, divinity within, a regal figure.

You are not a nigger!

You are Powerful, Wise, and Confident.
You are God’s child,
Exceedingly and wonderfully blessed!